Sunday 7 February 2021

A cat-shaped hole in our hearts

This post was originally scheduled to be published on Saturday. In fact, it was all but written when tragedy struck. Yesterday, sadly, and very unexpectedly, we had to say goodbye to our beloved little black monster, Phoebe. We are utterly heartbroken and left with a huge cat-shaped hole in our hearts. The pain is still very raw and I'm still red-eyed from crying non-stop yesterday.


Phoebe had been acting a bit lethargic lately and since the beginning of the week she was clearly off her food. Since having been diagnosed with a bladder stone 7 years ago, she'd been on a diet, and we initially suspected she was bored with being served the same old food day after day. A similar thing happened with our previous cat, and as Phoebe was still enthusiastic about her Dreamies and gladly accepted our offers of a saucer of tuna or chicken, we called the vet who suggested switching to regular cat food for a couple of days. We did and she started eating at once. Problem solved, or so we thought.



However, she remained lethargic, and the smallest thing seemed to take her a lot of effort. Then we noticed that her belly had started bloating considerably. An appointment at the vet's was made for Saturday. She was supposed to have blood tests, but when the vet spotted Phoebe's belly, which she soon determined was full of fluids, our suspicions were confirmed that things were very wrong indeed. The fluids were either caused by a virus or by a tumour, both of which would be incurable. The decision to let her go was made with our heads while our hearts cried bitter tears.


Phoebe 2008-2021


But life goes on, so in spite of everything, I decided to leave the rest of my post as it was originally intended, even if its tone is somewhat at odds with the recent happenings.

At the end of my previous post, I left you with a garden magically transformed into a Winter wonderland.  The snow's visit was a fleeting one. It didn't even stay for dinner as it started thawing almost straight away so that by Sunday morning, the 17th of January, hardly a trace of it was left.

After a night filled with weird dreams - they'd virtually stopped but have lately started again - I was delighted to wake up to a bright day, the January sun only diffused by a light veil of innocent clouds.

I had a blog post to write in readiness for that night's publication so, after our usual Sunday breakfast of bacon and eggs, I traipsed upstairs and started typing like mad. With that task out of the way, we had a lunch of bread and cheese, during which we discussed plans for the afternoon.



Oh the suspense!

In the meantime, why don't I show you what I was wearing that day?

The starting point of my outfit was a black button-through vintage dress with a patchwork pattern in hues of rusts and browns, with a dash of white thrown in for good measure.




For contrast, I used turquoise for my accessories, which included a textured leather belt, one of my vintage beaded necklaces and a silver-tone brooch with a centre stone threaded with ochre. It almost goes without saying that my opaques were a bright turquoise as well! My wide-collared cardigan, its colour tying in with the rusts in my dress's print, was added for warmth.

The red flower in my hair is real and belongs to our still exuberantly flowering red Geranium. The poor thing almost got trampled beneath my feet. I picked it up and put in my hair where it stubbornly managed to stay put all through our outfit photo session.



Jos's weather app said it would remain dry for the rest of the day, so we dressed up warmly and drove to our neighbouring village for a walk. Our ultimate destination was Hof ter Linden, a domain surrounding a Neoclassical manor house. 

Like the sculpture park, it is somewhere I have taken you several times before, the first time in the early Autumn of 2016, shortly after my Dad passed away. The walk we did back then was in his honour, as the woodlands surrounding the manor house - known locally as the castle - were part of his playground when he was a young boy during the Second World War.



Initially, I wasn’t in the mood at all. I was cold in spite of my Princess coat, turban hat and chunky knit scarf, especially as I'd forgotten to bring gloves. Not surprisingly, this being a sunlit Sunday, it was reasonably crowded in the avenue leading up to the castle courtyard. The paths beyond it were quite muddy which made them hard to negotiate, but once we'd taken the first hurdle, the Sunday strollers had dwindled to a handful of hardy ones, which is when I started to enjoy myself.



We proceeded to circle the lake which lies at the back of the castle and which, unhindered by exuberant foliage at this time of year, offered plenty of photo opportunities.

Victims of storms past lay slain, having toppled face first into the shallow waters at the edge of the lake, adding an otherworldly presence to its perfect stillness. Clouds had gathered to add further menace.



At one point, the quiet was pierced by the shrieking of birds whose silhouettes could be seen flitting from branch to branch high up in the canopy directly above us.



Once back at the castle, the layer of clouds shifted, revealing a canvas of bright blue in which white, powder puff clouds floated, propelled along by a gentle breeze.

Brilliant sunshine warmed up body and soul in equal measure.  The resident sphinxes and lions seemed to be stretching their limbs and tilting their heads heavenwards to bask in the sun's soothing rays.



I'm so glad we made the effort, we sighed to each other once or twice. All traces of the Sunday blues had evaporated and the last of the cobwebs removed from the furthest corners of our souls.




We were ready for another week and after skipping Monday's office day - a grey and dismal affair as befits Blue Monday - we had now arrived on Tuesday.

Once again, we woke up to the rain lashing against our bedroom window. This rather solved my dilemma of whether to walk into the village to run an errand. 

Instead, after a morning's pottering, washing my hair and fiddling with collages for the blog, we went for a charity shop rummage after lunch.



My outfit of the day consisted of a bottle green faux suede midi skirt picked up in last year's Winter sale, which I combined with a recently charity shopped vintage pussy bow blouse. The blouse's bow was fastened with a vintage scarf clip. I'm sure the belt does not need any introduction as it, and its two siblings, are habitués of the blog.


We drove down to the pop-up charity shop on the outskirts of Lier again where, after negotiating the car park's muddy puddles, I spent a happy half-an-hour or so browsing for treasures.

My hunt for jumpers was rewarded with this orange one, and what are the odds of finding a matching groovilicious maxi skirt in the same shop?




Trawling the rails of tops, my eyes alighted on this vintage psychedelic polyester shirt in hues of purples and pinks, and a modern long-sleeved top with a floral print in similar hues.

I thought both looked a treat combined with my grey woollen Paisley patterned skirt, which is long overdue an outing.


And it's clear I'm on a boot roll, as yet again I was in luck and found a pair of blue Western style mid-calf boots!



After taking the hurdle of Wednesday's office day - a grey, rainy and windy day - we made it to Thursday and the start of another 4-day weekend.

The stormy weather had subsided overnight, leaving us with a dry day for a change and a moderately mild temperature of 11°C.



It had been a while - my blog says February 2020 - since I wore this green ombre effect vintage dress, with its neat row of pleats and pussy bow. 

I usually wear it with pink so my raspberry pink opaques were the obvious choice. Looking back, it turns out that this was the only similarity with last year's outfit.



Again, I secured the pussy bow with one of my scarf clips, this time opting for a floral one featuring pink roses, a pre-blog flea market find.

Instead of taking the easy way out and add more pink, I opted for a burgundy belt with a massive buckle and a plaid patterned King Louie cardigan (charity shopped, obviously) in rose red and grey. To this, I pinned a pale pink flower corsage.



After breakfast, I ran the errand I postponed on Tuesday, buying shampoo and a selection of hair clips to deal with the Corona hair. It's been three months since my last haircut - four since my last colour - and it is simply driving me nuts. 

The rest of the day was once again filled with aimless pottering. I have taken both Beate's and Vix's advice to heart and have been trying to start my non-office days with a plan. Unfortunately this all went out of the window again with Phoebe being so poorly.

So, that was it for now. I'll be lying low for a couple of days, trying to come to terms with our loss.

I'm missing our little monster more than words can say.


49 comments:

  1. How sad to say good bye for the last time to a beloved cat.

    Pheobe is in cat heaven (as we call it). She is meeting with our Diwiis and Dischwarz right now.

    All the best, Regula

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  2. Oh, no! I'm so sorry for your loss. I will miss seeing Phoebe in your posts. She was such a lovely cat. I know this must be so hard for both of you. It's sad that our feline friends live such short lives (compared to our own) and one cannot avoid these sad goodbyes.

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  3. I know I commented on IG yesterday but I've been thinking of you today. It's horrible to lose a beloved pet and Phoebe was a much loved member of your family.
    Hoping next week brings some joy your way. xxx

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    1. Thank you Sally, we're taking it day by day, and obviously some days are better than others! xxx

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  4. Ann ... I am very sorry for Phoebe, I can understand how you feel, I went through it with our sweet Sheena .. Thank you very much, with my heart for your visit on my blog .. I hug you tightly..
    Carmela

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    1. Thank you for your kind and caring words, Carmela! xxx

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  5. I'm so, so sorry. When you posted on Instagram I was at a loss for the right words, and still am other than she was a lovely girl. It is so hard, particularly when you haven't had much warning or time to get used to the idea. Sending you love.

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    1. Thank you Goody, it is indeed quite hard to get our heads around the fact that she's no longer here ... xxx

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  6. i´m so very sorry - i´ll miss phoebe too....
    but you are a brave girl - doing the right thing and trying to walk on by posting. i know this helps from own experience.
    i totally love the big photo of the manor house over the pond - just gorgeous. and the "western" boots are cool - as is the faux suede midi skirt. good idea to wear hair clips - they add a nice note to your funky outfits.
    much love and - hugsies! xxxxx

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    1. Thank you Beate! She was such a big part of the blog, wasn't she? But I had to be brave, as obviously life goes on. xxx

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  7. I'm very sorry for your loss! Phoebe will live forever in your memories. Sending you lots of love!
    xoxo
    Lovely
    www.mynameislovely.com

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  8. I'm so sorry about Phoebe. I shall miss her enormously. She couldn't have had a happier or more loving cat parents, Jon & I send you both all our love.
    I'm glad you continued with your post, Hof ter Linden is gorgeous and reminds me very much of Croome, I think they even share the same sexy lady spinxes.
    You did brilliantly in the chazzas, the orange ensemble and the blue boots especailly.
    All three outfits are fabulous but that green pussybow dress is my favourite, it fits you perfectly.
    Much love! xxxx

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    1. Thank you so much Vix & Jon! I just had to continue with my post. It doesn't mean that she's forgotten, because she never will. I think the Croome comparison is far too much praise for humble Hof ter Linden, but yes, the sphinxes are clearly related :-) xxx

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  9. Really sorry about Phoebe, sending you hugs and love. I'd like to have some words to make you feel better.
    Glad that you kept on posting, I think that this could help you to go through this hard time.
    Lovely that you were so lucky in your shopping travels, so fab orange top and skirt. Love particularly your green and burgundy ensemble, this is an amazing color combo and so brilliantly accessorized!.
    besos & abrazos

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment, as always, Monica! I kept on posting all through the pandemic so far, so I'll keep doing so now, in Phoebe's honour. xxx

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  10. So sorry Ann ❤️😘
    Your styles are amazing. So colourful.
    much love and hugest of hugs Tina

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  11. I am so sorry for your loss! Phoebe was a beautiful cat and it's nice you were able to spend her last days giving her treats and tasty food, she was so very loved.

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  12. So sorry for your loss.
    You have such a wonderful collection of prints.

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  13. Aw, there's our Phoebe girl. It's such a shock when they go, and you made the right decision to let go of her before she was in pain. It's the hardest decision we make as cat "parents", isn't it? Biggest hugs to you, Ann, and to Jos too, and I know she will leave a cat-shaped hole in your hearts.

    What can we do, but go on? Wear that Clothing As Armour, hon! I love the turquoise accents on the top outfit (that belt would go so well with my turquoise summer "elf" shoes (the chunky ones!)). I love all the sphinxes on your walk!

    Your ultra-suede skirt is a marvelous colour (it matches your blog background!) and looks so good with the pink-mix top. You did amazing with tops in the thrifts! I rarely see such good vintage prints.

    I remember your green variegated dress! It's awesome.

    Hang in there, hon. Much love to you.

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    1. We had a premonition in the last couple of days, and had already discussed and agreed on letting her go when necessary. Still, I absolutely howled when Jos called me to tell me there was no hope. But yes, I'll continue wearing Clothing as Armour and connecting with my lovely friends here on the blog. It's what keeps me sane. xxx

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  14. Such awful news. Poor little Phoebe. At least she won't be in any pain or discomfort anymore.

    On a more positive note your outfits are lovely; your charity shop finds brilliant - more boots? You must have a boots magnet that draw them to you! Fabulous patterns on the top and the maxi skirt.

    I do hope your heart will fill in that cat shaped hole soon.

    Take care
    xxx

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    1. Thank you Vronni! It was the right decision to let her go, even if it hurt (and still hurts) so very, very much. Luckily there are still lots of things in our lives to be thankful for, including wearing colourful outfits! xxx

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  15. The biggest hugs are sent from us both. You’ve done amazing to carry on with your post. These early days are not easy.
    Sending all our love as you know to both of you.
    Take care xxxxxx

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind and comforting words, and for your email, which meant absolutely the world to us! xxx

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  16. Oh Ann! So sorry to hear about Phoebe's passing away. Pets are such part of the family aren't they? Sending you both big ((HUGS)). Loving the colours of your outfits in the rest of the post! XXX

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, Linda! It's lovely to hear from you and I hope you and your family are well? xxx

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  17. I just found your blog on someone else's list, so this is my first visit. I am SO sorry about Phoebe. I have lost a number of my cats over the last 10 years because suddenly all of my pets were geriatric. It is sooo hard, sooo sad when we need to take best care of them by letting them go. I don't know your blog, so I don't know if you have another cat, but if not, I hope you will eventually be able to offer another cat a happy, loving life. Also, I can't tell you how much I enjoyed your outfits!! I'm adding your blog to my own feedly list so that I can keep up with you from now on.

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    1. Thank you so much for visiting and for your lovely comment, Juliana. Phoebe was an only cat, and we will eventually be cat parents again. I wouldn't know how to live without a cat in our lives. In the 26 and a half years we have been together, we were only cat-less for just over a month! xxx

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  18. I didn't receive a notificaties of s new blog post. At first I thought you weren't in the mood for a post. But today I thought, lets check. So thats why I'm very late to this sad post. I'm so sorry that you had to let go of Phoebe. Losing a pet is so awful.I don't know what else to say, because I know the pain wil not go away for a while. I only can give you a huge virtual hug.

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    1. Oh, that is strange, Nancy! I subscribed to my blog myself - as advised by Sheila - and Jos has too, and we've both received notifications. Thank you for your lovely words and that huge virtual hug, which are very much appreciated! xxx

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  19. Sorry to hear about Phoebe Ann. They leave a big gaping hole don't they our pets.Sending a big hug to you xx

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  20. I am so sorry for your loss. Although I never comment, I love your blog and really enjoy seeing all of your different outfits. Hugs from afar.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment, Wendy! It's always lovely to hear from "secret" readers. I actually used to be one myself before I started blogging :-) xxx

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  21. I saw your post about Phoebe on Instagram. I'm so sorry for your loss - she was such a lovely little cat, and clearly a big part of your life. Condolences to you and Jos.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Mim. We still miss her so much. xxx

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  22. Dearest Ann, there aren't words enough to convey how sorry I am for your heartbreaking loss. The passing of a pet can hurt every bit as much (and honestly, sometimes even more) than that of a beloved human, and the impact it makes on our lives is nothing short of profound. Much like that of our treasured animal companion when they were alive.

    Please know that my heart, sympathy, support, understanding, and constant hugs are with you both around the clock - and that I am always just an email away if you would like someone to talk privately to about anything you are experiencing/feeling.

    So very much love,
    Autumn Zenith 🧡 Witchcrafted Life

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    1. Dearest Autumn, you are one of the kindest and most compassionate people I know, and I can only be thankful to have you in my virtual life. xxx

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  23. When I read the title of this post in my Bloglovin' feed I hoped, I hoped, I hoped it didn't mean what I thought it did. But it did and I'm so sorry you had to say goodbye to your beloved girl. It was obvious to see how very much you loved her. These little creatures leave such a huge hole when they are gone. I'm sending you lots of virtual hugs.
    xx

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    1. Thank you so much for your lovely words, Hazel. They do leave the hugest of holes. We still miss her beyond words. xxx

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  24. Nothing harder in the world even when you know you are doing the right thing. xxx

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    1. It really is, Gisela, we miss her more than words can say! xxx

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  25. I'm SO sorry to hear this Ann- what an awful shock for this to happen to darling Phoebe- you must be feeling so sad about it. Having had many cats, it never gets any easier when you lose them, especially so unexpectedly.
    Sending you hugs.x

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