Monday, 25 May 2026

Time keeps on slipping, slipping, slipping into the future

Now that, courtesy of my tripod, I no longer have to depend on Jos for outfit photos, I've got quite a backlog of them gathering dust on my phone.

We've also been able to go for a couple of short walks in the limited time right before and after chemotherapy when Jos was being spared the worst of the side effects, meaning that I've got some photos of these to share as well.

However, with Jos's stamina once more in decline, time kept on running away from me again, quietly slipping into an uncertain future which neither medicine nor Mystic Meg's crystal ball is able to shed a light on.

On this sunny and summery bank holiday, though, I've finally found a minute to myself, so please allow me to take you along as I travel back in time to Mid-April, when I was still getting to grips with my new assistant's foibles.

A full update on how Jos is currently doing will follow at the end of this post. If you are itching to find out, why don't you head over there, but promise me you'll retrace your steps later. All is well, or as well as can be, but there's been more than one change of plan.



April's third week brought a mix of clouds and sunny spells with temperatures ranging between 15° and 18°C.

Tuesday's outfit featured a floral extravaganza of a vintage skirt, found at Think Twice back in the mists of time. It is part of what is now called co-ords, its companion a wide-lapelled short-sleeved jacket. See here.

The green and white striped blouse came from Think Twice as well. Snapped up in February 2022 it was a much more recent addition to my wardrobe. 



My wooden beaded necklace and painted metal flower brooch were charity shopped, while the  pink suede belt was a cheeky high street buy in the Summer of 2023.



Wednesday's outfit was based around the first of the short-sleeved frocks of the season. Not that you'd notice as I completely forgot to take off my orange King Louie cardigan for the photo.

Sprigs of delicate yellow and orange flowers and fresh green foliage are sprinkled liberally across a background of palest green in this vintage dress which unfortunately does not photograph well. 


Here's a close-up of its floral pattern as well as the sparkly bee brooch - a flea market find - I pinned to its collar.

A special shout-out to my green suede Van Dalen ankle boots. One of my best charity shop finds ever, they have been gracing my feet since February 2021. That is, until a year or so ago, when they suddenly started giving my grief. I admit I only wore them for the photo, having worn a completely different pair for work.



Speaking of charity shops, I briefly nipped into Oxfam during my lunch break that day, and found this Missoni-esque cardigan, which is by King Louie.





Due to total neglect, our garden is currently akin to an impenetrable jungle. Not for long, though, as we've got a gardener coming to take care of it later this week. Fingers crossed I'll soon be able to make my mark on it again.




I was overjoyed to see that some self-seeded honesty and the indestructible bluebells still managed to show their pretty faces among the tangle of ivy and other rampant climbers.




We woke up to sunshine on Friday the 17th of April. Sadly, by the time I'd done the weekly shopping and ticked a couple of chores off my list, any trace of blue sky had disappeared behind a layer of angry looking clouds. 


As Jos was finally emerging from the fog brought by his latest course of chemotherapy, we were determined to go for a walk regardless. Thankfully, in spite of initial misgivings, it looked set to remain dry. 


Our destination for the afternoon was the park in nearby Duffel, which has lots of parking space at its edge. Circuiting the biggest of the parks's ponds, I was drawn to the cheerful sight of this border of red, white and yellow tulips.



Now, let's have a look at what I wore that day. 

My floral vintage skirt was yet another Think Twice find. From its orange, green, grey and white pattern, I picked orange for my short sleeved v-neck jumper found on the high street a couple of years ago.


The pattern's mossy green bits were highlighted with my triple-strand beaded necklace and suede belt, which were both charity shop finds. 

My vintage flower basket brooch came from an antiques shop in Shrewsbury.


The rain clouds, which had kindly held off their liquid load on Friday, returned with a vengeance on Saturday. 

Thankfully, no outdoor activities were on the menu that day. 

Instead, I had lunch with some of the girls I went to secondary school with. Some of us hadn't seen each other for a mind-boggling 47 years! Such a shame there were only five of us ...


My outfit that day started with the red skirt I'd charity shopped earlier that month. After a couple of false starts, I paired it with a blouse I'm sure most of you have seen here before. Originally from high street label Zoë Loveborn, it was a flea market find in October 2016.


Both the stretchy belt and the vintage brooch were charity shop finds.




And here's the update I promised you.

First of all, Jos's originally planned surgery isn't going ahead, as he isn't considered strong enough for such a complex procedure. As it would only buy him a year - half of which he would have to spend recovering - it was unanimously decided that it wasn't worth the risk. 

Instead he was offered a 4th course of chemotherapy. However, the side effects he suffered after his 3rd course were even worse than before and kept him housebound for the better part of 3 weeks. As he was slowly losing the will to live, he opted to stop treatment for now, particularly since the CT scan he'd had just after his 3rd course showed that things looked, as his doctor said, quiet.

He has now been given a 4 month pause, after which he'll get another scan to see what's what. 

During these months, we are planning to spend as much quality time together as possible and will be going on a couple of short holidays between now and Mid-September. In fact, we've already booked the first of these in just under 4 weeks, when we will be returning to our cottage in Poperinge for a couple of days.

Hope to see you again soon!



25 comments:

  1. Oh, dear. My deepest condolences to you two for the hardships of your current moment. This must be unbearable and consuming. I applaud your strength and courage as you navigate these rough waters. And admire your ability to stay calm, rational and aware. It's healthy for you to retain your enthusiasm for fashion and trips outdoors. Both are empowering. Thank you for sharing your adventures, news and life. You're a special woman, Anne, and we wish you the best.

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  2. I am so sorry for the difficulties you have been experiencing. My heart goes out to you.
    Your photos are gorgeous.
    I love your photos of yourself and your lovely outfits as well.
    You have great taste and you look amazing, dear friend.

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  3. Ann, it's good to see you here again, modelling your outfits.
    I am sorry to hear that Jos is having such a hard time. It's hard on you, too, and it's good that you're planning for holidays together.
    I hope you're managing to eat enough to keep up your strength, though I imagine you haven't much appetite

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  4. Dear Ann, what a difficult time you are both still going through - (((Hugs))). I hope your holidays work out well and bring some joy for you both. Love to see your outfits, and the photos of the beautiful park. What a distraction to have lunch with the ladies you were at school with! I once attended a reunion back in England and it was so good to see how everyone had grown up and to relate as adults! Prayers for Jos and you will continue. 🙏

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  5. Dearest Ann and Jos, my heart goes out to you both. I'm glad you are dedicating the upcoming months to just being together and appreciating and treasuring the time you have. Sending you both big hugs, good vibes and the loudest purrs you ever heard from the feline contingent.
    Ann, your outfits are rays of sunshine in those cloudy days (daze). Keep on taking care of yourself, getting dressed and "touching grass" (as the kids say) to ground yourselves in Nature.
    Much love to you both (Bess too!). Sheila

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  6. The first outfit is already so beautiful. You did a great job with the pattern mix. I like all the outfits. Especially the jewelry and the cool green ankle boots.

    I hope Jos recovers well from the strain of chemotherapy in the coming months and that you can enjoy some lovely days together.

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  7. Dear Ann, it's so lovely to see your outfits and fab finds, those mixed patterns and colours which make my heart sing!
    It's difficult to find what to say except that I'm sending you love and courage for you and Jos!. And totally understand you decided to spend some quality time together and enjoy a holiday or two, you totally deserve it. Hope that your holiday at the cute cottage could keep your head up!
    Muchos besos y abrazos!

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  8. What an emotionally trying time. I am sending you and Jos my prayers and happy thoughts. You look great. Love those green booties and the bee broach as well.

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  9. Savor each day. Make memories for both of you.

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  10. Dear Ann, my heart goes out to you both . I do hope Jos recovers from the effects of the chemotherapy and can enjoy your trip away and your precious time together.
    Your outfits are always a joy to see and no doubt provide a small distraction as you put them together.
    Please take care of yourself and continue your nature walks as you can .Sending my love to you both.

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  11. I hope that you have a fabulous few months adventuring with Jos. Love to both of you. Arilx

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  12. Thinking of you both and hoping you are able to enjoy the coming previous months together. Xx

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  13. Sending lots of love to you and Jos, Ann. I've been thinking of you both loads and wondering how things were going. (And reading back through your last few blog posts, it sounds like the chemotherapy has been really heavy going.) I hope that you have good weather for your planned adventures, and are able to make lots of beautiful memories.

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  14. i stayed to your schedule and looked up you dresses and landscape pictures first - love the pale dress combined with the bright cardi - great look!
    i wish you all the best for the upcoming months, lots of wonderful and sunny days for little walks and the stay in poperinge........ sending tons of hugses for both of you! xxx

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  15. Some very lovely outfits here,Ann, the colours are glorious. I covet the Missoni -like cardigan. All my special colours!
    I am sorry to hear that Jos has been having such a hard time with the chemotherapy. A break for four months sounds like the best idea. Hopefully the warmer weather will bring some joy and strength with it for you both. I hope your break at your favourite cottage will be a welcome and comfort to you both. All good wishes. Stay strong. Look after yourself too

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  16. Your looks are all so beautifully put together and wonderful eye-catchers. Respect for using a tripod. I always seem to be quite clumsy with it.

    The decision to spend a few nice, relaxing days on vacation is definitely the right one. I'm still keeping my fingers crossed and sending you both a big hug. Tina

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  17. What a though times you two have. But a good decision to take a few trips to relax and reflect. I hope you can enjoy those trips to the fullest, and I wish you all the strength that you need.

    How lovely that you met up with old friends!

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  18. I love that you have been able to take more outfit photos lately, because you are such incredible style! It is a real treat to see the many beautiful outfits you put together. Your creativity always inspires. Those green suede ankle boots are fabulous. I can see why they are one of your best charity shop finds! The photos from your walks are extraordinary. It is wonderful that you make time to be in nature whenever possible. And how exciting that you were able to have lunch with some friends. Incredible to see one another after such a long time.

    I hope that during the pause, you are both able to make some fabulous memories together. Sending you both so much love.

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  19. Sending you and Jos good thoughts and love.

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  20. Good to see you still showing us your lovely outfits. I’m so sorry for what you and Jos are going through and wish you blessings for your adventures xxx

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  21. Oh sweetheart...this is sad news, indeed. I'll be praying for Jos to heal and for you both, to find warmth and love in each other.
    You are so beautiful...
    Big hug and much love...
    Donna

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  22. Despite Jos's health issues and the susequent worries I'm so glad that you're making time for you, creating beautiful outfits, tackling Dove Cottage's garden, walking amonst nature and meeting up with friends (what a lovely photo!)
    All of your outfits are a joy especially the first one with the striped skirt, the floral midi skirt and how those chunky beads echo the design on the skirt.
    The King Louie cardi is very Missoni-esque and a brilliant find. I rememebr you buying those boots, how rude of them to misbehave!
    Sending you, Jos and Bess loads of love. I hope you manage some lovely mini breaks and country walks over the summer. xxxx

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  23. I always enjoy your outfit posts because they never feel like they're only about clothes. They become little snapshots of life, and this one felt especially poignant knowing what you shared about Jos at the end. That floral skirt and striped blouse combination was such a cheerful look, and I loved seeing all the little details, from the flower brooch to the wooden beads. The vintage dress with the bee brooch was lovely too, even if the camera didn't quite do it justice. I also had to smile at the mention of wearing those beautiful green boots just for the photo. I think many of us have at least one pair of shoes we adore but can no longer comfortably wear for a full day.

    The photos from your walk in Duffel were a pleasure to see. Those tulips were gorgeous, and it was wonderful that you and Jos were able to enjoy some time outdoors together. The garden photos gave me hope too. It's amazing how bluebells and honesty seem to persevere no matter what is happening around them.

    Thank you for sharing such an honest update about Jos. I can only imagine how difficult some of these decisions have been. I hope these next few months bring many peaceful days, gentle adventures, and plenty of moments to simply enjoy each other's company. Sending my warmest thoughts to both of you.

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  24. Dear Jos and Ann, I'm so glad you are able to spend treasured time together even amongst incredible hardship. Enjoy your special time together, the holidays will be wonderful.

    I love the photos of the flowers and your small high school reunion. X

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